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In this post I´m going to write some thoughts about my involvement in the Bdsm scene in Berlin. I´m very open minded as a person and really interested in alternativ sex. There´s so many artistic things you can do with bdsm. A whole lot of it is sexual art other things are just sex with some new elements. I´m a bdsm performance artist and do sessions at kitkat with my crew. I´m working with whips as a switch which means I´m both submissive and dominant. We also do wax play and electricity. When we´re at kitkat people usually come up to us to get whipped. Then we make a sessions and sometimes I whip a little but mostly I´m holding the person and help with the communication. We use colors where green means ok, yellow means “no harder” and red is stop. The person can tell my mentor Ari who´s usually the person whipping but also to me because it´s easier since I´m sitting in front of the person.
There´s a big difference between pain and injury. Sometimes people can get a little red but it´s not like they are dying out of pain. The reason why I want to learn from my mentor is because I really respect his method. It´s all about communication and technique. It´s not about raw sadism, it´s actually really sensual. The whips and the different techniques feels different on the skin. The candles, electricity and metal brings new sensations to the body. It should hurt a little if the person likes that but not in an unpleasant way. But it´s not for everyone and that I totally understand.
It´s not something I do because of money. I usually don´t get anything except free entrance to the club and some cola light. When we do performances and workshops I can get like 50 euros. That´s what I earned in Poland and it basically covered the costs for food.
When it comes to the performances it´s all about making a show. I´m not turned on when we´re on stage but I like to do performances. We have a small set of songs and Ari uses different techniques while a girl who´s the dominant mistress put us in different positions. We may kiss a little but it´s not real sex and we don´t do anything physical with the audience. It´s over my limit to show my genitals or do intercourse in front of the camera.
I’m against prostitution because I think it’s wrong to take advantage of people in a economic vulnerable position. When money is involved it becomes the sellers duty to give the buyer what he or she payed for. Sex is about giving to each other knowing that the other person (or persons) also wants you to enjoy it. But sex is also to have respect for each other and paying attention to if something isn’t right. It’s not about sacrifice yourself to make another person pleased. There’s a whole lot of bad shit happening in this world and sexual abuse is a big part of it.
I’m all about consensual sex and education. That’s also a reason for me to be so open about it. I won’t write about my personal sex life and what I do in private but I’m totally fine with sharing my involvement in the Bdsm scene in Berlin. I want it to be there to find for people who’s interested so that they can learn the real techniques to practice it. Using whips is not easy and you need to learn how use every single one of them to not hurt the other person. I’m also a big supporter of women living out there sexuality more and encourage them to not feel ashamed for having desire and fetishes. I do have more to say about this topic but I think this is enough for now.
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